Writing has always been my source of calmness and zen as it helps me focus on what actually matters the most. During one such time when I wanted to cut myself off from the world and destress myself, I wrote this piece. I have been wanting to publish this for quite some time but decided to prioritise my other blogs.
Back in 2019, I was going through a tough time and I had this key chain custom-made as I needed something to remind me that it was all going to be okay. This quote is from the 2015 movie ‘Cinderella’ and ever since I heard it in the movie, the deepness of it just resonated with me. This quote is so simple yet so complex in the meaning it tries to convey with just a few words.
Fast forward four years and it still continues to serve as a reminder when times get tough and gives a message of hope. Being kind requires courage, especially in situations when it is not easy to choose it. This quote combines strength and vulnerability and shows that the two can exist harmoniously.
Genuine kindness is rare, it is raw and it requires courage to give it. With a lot going on in the world, remembering this will help you out. No matter what happens and whatever curveball life throws at you, just remember to have courage and be kind. I hope this serves as a reminder for you as well!! ❤️✨
Just as this says, your first healthy relationship will be challenging. It will be marred by the trauma that you underwent in your previous relationship. It would be a challenge learning to accept the new and actual normal of mutual respect and understanding.
Another thing that no one talks about is the period in between that. The toxic relationship drains you so much to an extent that you lose faith in love and relationships. It makes you question yourself and your ability to have a meaningful relationship. You are thrown into a whole new world after you decide to cut ties with the person or the other way around. `You are alone, you are drained and you have no idea what to expect in the future. You are afraid to even consider the possibility of happiness in the future.
Trust me when I say that all this is normal. It would take some time to heal and learn to accept that you deserve more. Each person has their own way of healing and the time period taken by them would be different but the healing eventually happens and you would be ready for a love that is healing and deep. No relationship is meant to drain you. In fact, it should be the opposite. A relationship is meant to nurture you and allow you to grow.
The first step towards achieving that journey, at least from what I have seen around, is to accept the fact that you deserve better. If you don’t think that for yourself, no one would. So after you are done grieving, accept the fact that you deserve better and try to open up your mind to new possibilities.
After you have healed and accepted the fact, you might end up finding someone who values and respects you. But again, even that would be a challenge as you are not used to this and you might find ways to sabotage it. You would feel insecure as you are not used to this and would always end up thinking of the worst-case scenarios. Just understand that this is normal and slowly learn to accept that and enjoy the peace and love it brings forth.
One thing that can be inferred from all this is to have faith and never lose hope. Quoting from Shawshank Redemption, “Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things and no good thing ever dies. “Where there is life, there is hope and that is something that everyone needs to hold on to for the better or the worse.
Amazon Prime recently released Modern Love: Chennai on its OTT platform and I had been binge-watching it which prompted me to write this blog. Chennai, being my hometown was another factor that made me write on this though I have been meaning to write on this topic for quite some time. Modern Love is inspired by personal real-life essays from the New York Times column Modern Love. The initial season was based in New York and then later on inspired the same concept of different cities in India with the latest being the one of Chennai.
It is an extremely heartwarming series that explores the different kinds of love out there. From a doorman being a woman’s confidant to finding lost love, this series has it all. After seeing the five seasons of all the demographics over the years, it just got me thinking as to what is Modern Love. So what is Modern Love? Each individual would have their own perspective on it but this is my take on Modern love.
Modern love is a concept that exists in today’s day and age but it can mean different things to different people depending on their situations. It is called Modern because the idea of love and the way it is expressed has changed over time. I really wanted to know what the take on Modern love was in today’s society and hence asked people from various walks of life to share their thoughts on the same.
Jaya, an experienced project manager currently doing her Masters in Cork quotes as follows.
“Modern love is love that exists in its many forms…straight love, bi-love, platonic love, love for inanimate things, self-love and their acceptance in any form shouldn’t be scrutinized under any lens even by oneself in bouts of uncertainty.”
Charu, an experienced business development manager currently doing her Masters in Cork quotes as follows.
“Modern love for me is something that doesn’t define my existence but helps me to glorify it even more. I do not depend on his love to give me happiness, but his presence makes my happy days, even more, happier and the low days slightly less upsetting. It is a love that makes me stronger. Everyone today is very ambitious, focused and driven. It is a love that makes my belief stronger and helps me to manifest bigger and better not just for me but also for everyone I care about. It is this love that makes me a better person and accepts me with all the flaws that make me what I am. It is a love that doesn’t question my perceptiveness and gives me space to explore whatever realms I want to be in. He wants me to be his partner for life and not just a mother to his kids or a wife for himself for that matter. He knows I cook perfectly well but he also knows when and why I would need my sip of coffee or a freshly squeezed orange juice. It is a love that respects my individualism and loves to grow with me. It is a love that knows I am emotionally vulnerable and how the nuances of society can mess with my brain, but nevertheless, it is the deep breath that I take at the start of each new day and at the end of each night. It is a love that knows that I value commitments irrespective of various opinions, and that’s what keeps us together.”
Adhitya, a software engineer based in Canada quotes as follows.
“Modern love is not anymore about hormones making one feel a certain way about another but rather a perspective that one pushes on oneself about another person. To most teens today, love is all about what they see everywhere in films and series. If they do not feel that way from head to toe or if the other person is not perfect, it’s not love to them. Modern love is no more about just being there, sharing your joy and providing a shoulder to cry on.”
Dipika, a software engineer based in the USA quotes as follows.
“Modern love is both heartfelt and a choice to stick with your partner through all the ups and downs. But I also feel that love has always been the same but just the way it is shown has changed. “
Patricia, a linguistics student based in Cork quotes as follows.
“To me, I guess modern love is overwhelming freedom without guidance because we’re all lost about what love actually is.”
All the above thoughts and opinions are possible because of Modern Love. According to me, Modern love is a love that breaks rules, questions stereotypes, challenges the norms and gives the freedom to choose. It gives you the courage to explore love beyond the said rules and expand your horizons to fit in whatever love you feel is suitable for you. It embraces all your perfect imperfections no matter the situation.
It’s that time of the year when exams are finally over and summer is here!!! Summer is beautiful, isn’t it? People usually say that Spring is the season of hope but Summer is the season that tells people that affirms people that their hope didn’t go in vain. It culminates into something beautiful, allowing people to dream of something good.
It was that kind of a day when I decided to go for a walk on the Banks of the Lee Walkway in Cork City. Me saying it was beautiful would be a dire understatement. It was something ethereal. There is something about walking in nature and greenery, is it not? It makes you feel closer to the universe and rejuvenates you. All the burdens that had stacked up itself over time finally left me and made me feel light.
All this combined with the blue skies and clear water just made even more sense. And what’s not to love with the little dogs running around and enjoying their day as well?
So yeah, coming back to the point. After my walk, I decided to watch a movie because why not? No idea why, but I felt like watching some old classic. I was listening to the song ‘Don’t you forget about me’ by Simple Minds and my mind immediately went to the movie ‘The Breakfast Club’. I have always loved this movie and will continue loving it. It is such a short movie but the depth it conveys is beyond its running time.
The movie showcases five students from different cliques in high school who have to spend eight hours of detention together on a Saturday morning. The conversations that they have conveys so much that make you rethink your perspective on life. I guess the walks on the banks just made me think more. A few things that it conveys are to not give a damn about what other people think and to be unapologetically yourself.
And that is exactly what every one of us needs to do. To be unapologetically yourself!! If you love someone, tell them. If you want to ask someone out, ask them!! If you feel like there is an issue or a gap between your friends, address it!! If you think you did something wrong, apologise!! I mean, it’s not so hard, is it?
Life is short and relationships are profound. Every relationship whether it may be between siblings, friends or a couple is unique and each one requires its own efforts. It takes courage to stand up for each of them and put in all your heart and soul. Yes, it takes courage to let down all your walls and show your vulnerable self to others and for that, you always have to be proud and never ashamed no matter where things would end. Because you were true to yourself and that’s all that matters.
Just remember, you never have to be sorry or feel embarrassed just because you were unapologetically you!!
Trust me when I tell you that adulting isn’t easy. You have to deal with stuff that you never thought you would have to one day and you got to do it all on your own. And to add to that, being in a foreign land is definitely not easy with the addition of losing the sense of familiarity.
I was having a pretty bad week with the loss of my grandfather. This was really bad as I am staying away from my family now and I couldn’t be there for them and for the last rites of my grandfather. To top that, I had an exam on the very day I got the news from my home. Trust the universe and its timing right!!!
Given that I had my exams (currently doing my Masters), I just locked up my grief and was all over the place because of that. Once I had my exam done and dusted, I thought that it was time to grieve him. After I completed my part-time job today at the university and was heading home, I decided to take an impromptu trip to Saint Fin Barre’s Cathedral. As I was walking with River Lee by my side, I knew that I was right in taking the detour.
The moment I laid eyes on the majestic cathedral, I felt all my worries wash away. It was mesmerizing and cathartic. As I slowly walked in taking in the majesticness, I entered the church. At the very moment, I was inside the cathedral, I felt at peace. I took a slow tour and soaked in the tranquillity. I also spoke to the tour guide about the history of the church and learnt quite a bit about it.
As time passed by, the tour guide and I ended up talking and he was one of the sweetest people I have come across. We spoke about our life journeys and I ended up sharing the fact about my loss. He asked me if I would like to light a candle in memory of my grandfather and I did end up doing it. I felt at peace and felt my burden lightening a bit. He also went on to tell me that I had an aura of peace in me and that compliment really made my day. He then went on to give me a goodie from the gift shop. We ended up sharing our contacts and promised to stay in touch.
As I was walking back home all happy, I ended up meeting this cute little munchkin Simba who again made my day with his love.
Sometimes all you need during a bad time is love and kindness. A complete stranger came out of nowhere and actually made my day by just being kind. A dog made me happy just by showing love without judgements. It does not hurt to be kind and it costs nothing. This is a reminder to be kind, spread love and take it one day at a time. I guess you got to trust the universe and its timing after all.
I realize that it’s been quite a while since I posted something. I was bombarded with a myriad of personal issues and couldn’t focus on creating content. Hopefully, this doesn’t happen again in the future. It’s also been a while since I posted a book review and so I am precisely doing that. So let’s call this my back to work post, shall we? And then there were none is a book that keeps you on the edge till the very last word. Written by one of the greatest mystery writers of all times, this book really boggles your mind till the very last word and I literally mean it. You are not going to know what’s going on until you come to the very end. Ten people from various backgrounds are invited by a rich host to a mansion off the Devon coast for various purposes. They are perplexed when they find out that their host has still not arrived. In the meanwhile, they try to get acquainted with each other.
Things get rattled when one of them dies and they realise they have a murderer in their midst? Do they or was it someone else? What about the ten china soldier figures in the dining table? Is there a connection? Do read the book to find out more. One of the best books ever written, Agatha herself admitted that this was the toughest book to write and you can really understand why, once you read the book. I really hope that you all read this masterpiece and the fact that I am really excited writing this review tells how much her detective mastery has impacted me. So what are you waiting for? Grab a cup of coffee or tea or whatever you prefer and start cracking. Trust me, you won’t regret it. I would really love it if you told me in the comments how much you loved the book.
My rating: 5/5
For those who want to check out this book, here is the link: https://amzn.to/3syBEPf
I had gone to Pondicherry with my friends a few days back and we went to this cute little cafe in Bussy street. The dishes that we ordered are as follows.
This dish was given as a complimentary and as a starter. The taste was really fresh and it really cleansed our palates for our next dishes.
To put it in simple words, it was potato on a stick. It tasted good but could have been better with a bit more salt. My personal opinion is that the number of pieces served can be reduced as it was really heavy.
The buttermilk fried chicken was extremely delicious!!! The exterior was really crispy and the inside was really soft and tender and it was served with a sweet chili dip. This was my favourite among all the starters served. I highly recommend you all to try this.
We did not take a photo of the tempura prawns on its own. The photo shown here has the buttermilk chicken in it as well. The dish was really good with the light and airy batter and the plump prawns. This too was served with a sweet chili dip but I felt that it could have been served with a spicy dip as the dish itself lacks spice.
The masala fried paneer was extremely yum with the tangy sauce and the soft paneer. I highly recommend this dish for all the vegetarians out there.
We started our main course with Cajun fish with rice and sautéed vegetables. I personally liked only the fish and not the rice and vegetables. The dish had more rice than the fish and was not what I had expected. I also would have preferred a full slice of the fish and not just two small pieces.
The second main dish that we ordered was the Braised chicken with mashed potatoes. I really did not like this dish. There is nothing much to say about it.
I am a hard core dessert person and I never end my meal without something sweet. This was the perfect way to end our elaborate meal. The brownie was really soft and the combination of it and the ice cream was definitely divine. I recommend you all to try this as well.
Overall a great experience and I will definitely visit again if I go to Pondicherry.
PS: I borrowed this book from a friend and read it and hence I could not take a picture. The picture I have used here is from a website named carousell.ph . I am attaching the link here for reference: https://www.carousell.ph/p/man-woman-and-child-by-erich-segal-142406527/ This is the first post of romance genre in my feed. So as promised, I have switched from my go-to genre which happens to be psychological and mystery thrillers. Okay now, so let’s dive into the review. Man, woman and child is an intense family drama that revolves around love, passion and faithfulness. Bob and Sheila Beckwith, who are the man and woman as the title says have everything that everyone envies. Love!! They are a happily married couple who have two daughters and live a peaceful and happy life. Bob loves his family with all his heart and soul.
Just when everything seemed to be perfect, one phone call changes everything. A phone call that tells Bob that he has a son. Memories come flooding back to Bob on how he had been unfaithful to Sheila ten years prior. Now that the truth was out in the open, will the couple stay together? What happens to the family? Read the book to find out more. The author must have had some kind of magical powers as each and every word written in the book makes you feel the pain the couple undergoes. The emotion conveyed is intense and maybe some readers out there would definitely shed a drop or two. A must read book for all bibliophiles out there. One thing that really shocked me was the fact that I couldn’t find any pictures of this book on Instagram. This is one of the author’s best works in par with his famous ‘ Love story’ (will post my review later) and yet, this was the situation. This was another fact that prompted me to post a review on this book as I really felt that this gem should be known to all my fellow book lovers out there. My rating: 5/5 For those who have read this book, do let me know your perspectives in the comments below. For those who want to check out this book, here is the link: https://amzn.to/3ak8L2j Author: Erich Segal Publisher: Rhus publishers
Yet another mystery thriller in my blog. Yes, I am a huge fan of mystery and psychological thrillers. The Silent Widow is a book by Tilly Bagshawe written using Sidney Sheldon’s name. His family allowed her to continue his legacy as her writing style was similar to that of Sheldon’s. Sidney Sheldon is and was one of the best mystery writers we have ever been gifted with. But sadly due to his demise in 2007, we all lost a gem of a writer. But I think the universe heard the cry of all the bookholics and reincarnated him in the form of Tilly Bagshawe. Doctor Nikki Roberts is a psychologist who makes her living by trying to understand and read people’s minds. But what happens when there are a sudden spate of murders in the city and she is the common link between them? Are these murders related to the murder of an au pair in Mexico that happened ten years ago? Don’t worry, I am not going to give you spoilers.
The writing is effortless and smooth and manages to keep the suspense element intact throughout. Though I think fans of Sheldon would predict the ending, it certainly is worth giving a read. I also think that the plot of the book is similar to the ‘ The naked face ‘ which was the first novel written by Sheldon and which was nominated for the Edgar Allen Poe award for best first novel. I will post my thoughts on this book as well soon. Overall a good book but definitely had scope for doing better as I really have great expectations from the author. Will post more reviews on her other amazing books soon. My overall rating: 3.8/5
If you have read this book, do let me know your perspectives in the comments below. For those who want to check out this book, here is the link: https://amzn.to/2LY0Pem
‘It’s the possibility of having a dream come true, that makes life interesting.’
This is one of my favourite quotes from this book and really strikes a chord with me. I mean isn’t that life all about? Hoping for a better tomorrow? Hoping for better things? It’s the hope that keeps us alive, isn’t it?
This is a book with a minimal number of pages and simple language which makes it great for beginners. And what better way to start your journey into the world of books with something motivational. The alchemist is the perfect book to teach you about hope, dreams, following your heart and looking out for signs. Call me old fashioned, but I really do believe in all these. Those who believe in the ‘law of attraction’ can definitely resonate with this book.
To be honest, and this might be an unpopular opinion, I did find it to be a drag initially but was hooked as the story progressed. The author has really done a great job in capturing the true essence of what dreams really are. The writing is really straightforward and easily understandable and that makes it a very quick read for bibliophiles who are in this world for quite some time.
If you are interested or looking for some motivation and inspiration, then just grab a cup of tea( tea lover here!!) and settle down with this gem that radiates positivity. I am sure you will start seeing the world in a new perspective, once you are done with it.
My rating: 3.8/5
If you have read this book, do let me know your perspectives in the comments below. For those who want to check out this book, here is the link: https://amzn.to/34XJI3e